Some of this blog post is a quote from an entry I made on another blog site a year or so ago. It will be followed by some new exposition and then a quote from a second blog entry I made some time ago followed by some further exposition on my sexuality.
On Homosexuality: “Yes, people in America are squeamish about being identified as homosexual. There are still a lot of negative social sanctions with being identified as such. For actors, actresses, and musicians such an admission could mean the short-circuiting of their careers in some manner. This one unique trait becomes so overwhelming that people cannot accept them in the roles they play as actors or avoid their concerts.
Is homosexuality genetic? I‘m not sure. I think this issue can still be up for debate at this time. Homosexual activity is found in other species on earth so to call gayness unnatural would be false. However we should not get caught up in the natural/unnatural debate anyway because it is a false construct. It is what some scientist call the Naturalistic Fallacy, which states what is natural is always better or good and what is unnatural is always worse or bad.
I see human beings as just being sexual thus anything can be arousing. If I limit this to sexual behavior involving human beings then I think people’s sexual preference can be viewed from the perspective of a continuum. Depending on your position on this continuum is your homosexual/ heterosexual ratio (on this continuum at one end is one hundred percent homosexual and on the other end is one hundred percent heterosexual).
The farther you are on the homosexual side the more likely that homosexuality will be displayed and the farther you are on the heterosexual side the more likely heterosexuality will be shown.
Heterosexuality has an advantage over homosexuality. Many societies approve of heterosexuality and disapprove of homosexuality or approve of the practice of homosexuality as a stage of life that will pass or the occasional sexual ‘slipup’ or dally so even individuals that might be in the middle of the continuum (bisexual) or even more on the homosexual side of the continuum will feel pressured to practice only heterosexual sex. In light of these facts we can see that many married men or women with children could still have more homosexual tendencies than heterosexual ones.
This does not mean that homosexuality is not genetic because it still could be. Many people are under the mistaken opinion that there is one gene that makes your eye color blue or brown or that there is one gene that makes one short or tall but this is not the case. Many traits are governed by a series of genes. In other words you need a set of particular genes to manifest a particular trait. This fact fits in nicely with the continuum view on sexual preference.”
This quote concerned how I felt about homosexuality. One paragraph concerns the type of sexuality that will be displayed and social pressures. As I look at the conditions of American society I can see pressures pushing towards more expression of homosexual tendencies.
Some women’s groups on college campuses are pushing agendas that are suppose to defend women against things like domestic violence, and date rape. The philosophy they preach in many cases almost amount to saying, ‘all males are the same (jerks, rapist, etc) and that they should be avoided’. It is like these groups are advancing a lesbian agenda. This may lead to more display of innate gay tendencies. It can lead to the display of these tendencies on the woman’s side because men are demonized and the display of the same tendencies by males because of the difficulty of developing sexual relationships with women.
The improved environment for the gay lifestyle (although it still has a long way to go and things are tentative and could change) will also increase the manifestation of homosexual behavior. And the greater acceptance of leisurely sex inevitably mean more display of gay sexual behavior.
I can go on listing factors that will increase the expression of gay sex like population density but this blog entry is already going to be long enough.
. My Taste In Women: “In a T and A world I pay more attention to the A. It is good to have some T, but it is not really the thing that will arouse me. A nice gluteus maximus with depth width and lift is attractive to me. Shape is important. Firm and/or fleshy is okay as long as there is a nice shape Padding is important. Breast can vary in size but I tend to shy away from boobs that are extremely large although I know a lot of people who love large breast. Mid sized is my taste in T.
Curvy hips are important. Hips need some curve to them in women. Not necessarily a lot of curve but some would be nice.
Full lips are preferred over thin lips. Lips are a characteristic that I could overlook but my eyes tend to find one’s lips before the rest of the face. Lips may be too full but this is
extremely rare. I cannot recall ever seeing a person and saying the lips are too full. I have seen people and thought lips are too thin……..
In weight I prefer women who have a little bit more body fat than that recommended by many barologist. I said I like padding. Muscle is needed to maintain tone and shape though so being noticeably overweight is not stimulating to me but ‘sticks’ interest me even less.
The person should be near my height. Slightly below or above my stature does not really bother me that much. Height is not a major factor as long as one is not a dwarf or midget.
I prefer narrow eyes to wide ones. Statistically people prefer wide eyes to narrow. I prefer narrow because they seem more sultry and mischievous and thereby they arouse me more than wide eyes.
I have not forgotten that symmetry is very important in good looks and most likely symmetry matters to me also. What I am talking about is that anthropologist have discovered that the more symmetry a person has in his or her face the prettier one is said to be.
This ideal of symmetry equaling beauty seems to be universal, which in anthropologist-speak means that it crosses cultural lines. No matter what a member of a culture does to his or her body, dress and makeup, symmetry seems to be the most important factor in calling someone beautiful.”
This second quote concerns the physical characteristics that arouse me in a female. I think it is pretty clear that what I look at first on a female is her lips and ass and they can cause arousal.
In the male I look at lips and ass also. The interest in the male form is limited but I must clearly state that I consider myself bisexual.
On that continuum I talked about I would consider myself more on the heterosexual side of the scale.
I came to this conclusion based on the range of female and male traits that would ‘turn me on’ or be an instant ‘turn off’. Using ‘turn on’ and ‘turn off’ as my criteria I came to some conclusions and I will talk about some of them here.
I guess the clearest way for me to put it is that there is a limited range of body types that arouse me in males. The morphology usually has to be mesomorphic (with limits) for males (sometime ectomorphic).
This limit does not exist for females. The broad shouldered female that some would say looks like a male would be acceptable to me as long as the lips and ass met my standards. In women any one of the three main body morphologies is acceptable.
The age range that could interest me sexually is also much broader for women. Women from eighteen to sixty have aroused me while with men it tends to stop at about forty-five.
In the gay world I would be more of a ‘pitcher’ than a ‘receiver ('catcher'). In other words positions that I am most comfortable in or aroused in are more limited with males than females. I prefer the ‘pitcher’ position. With women there are almost no positions that I am not comfortable unless the woman through the use of certain devices starts ‘pitching’ if you know what I mean.
A lot of individuals think that if they are a ‘pitcher’ (or the person they have sex with is dressed as a woman….believe it or not) then they are not gay. This is false. I guess the belief that, ‘I fuck while he is fucked or he sucks while I am sucked therefore I am straight’ gives comfort to many.
I tolerate more variation in weight and muscle mass in females than males. A female slightly overweight is okay while a male slightly overweight in most instances is not okay.
Considering that I am bi there are things about me that may surprise some. Too much femininity in men or women is a ‘turn off’ (of course there are exceptions to every rule but rules usually rule).
I don’t know why so many lesbians are stereotypically ‘butch’ and gay men stereotypically feminine. What does gender roles have to do with sexuality? This is a question that needs more exploration.
There are things that do seem to be distinctly different (beyond the obvious) between males and females. One of them is that males tend to want to dominate (more pitchers than receivers) and control.
I guess another point I should make is that sex can feel basically the same whether one ‘goes down’ female on female, male on male, or female on male.
Now there are some fundamental biological differences between males and females. First let me say that many believe the sex drive is like the ‘prime directive’ in life. We are here to procreate. Penis is made for vagina. The ‘cock’ is like the plug while the ‘pussy’ is like the socket. The cock is made to be plugged into the vagina so that sperm can be deposited in the cavity in order to try and create another human being. According to some it is the only reason you live. It is the purpose of life. It is easy to understand this belief considering how the sex drive is such a part of life.
In practice sex is not limited to this basic function of the reproductive system. If people strictly lived by the so-called true function of the penis and vagina then there would be no cunnilingus because the tongue and lips are not made for that purpose (marriage by the way would not be necessary. It is ‘unnatural’ as they say).
All sexual activity would aim to get ‘cock’ in ‘pussy’ whether it happens from the behind approach or the missionary position (or whatever other position you can think of to make it happen).
The behind approach probably was the most intuitive approach for early man (the early history of human beings to be more precise) but as modern man found out it gives the least amount of pleasure for most females (although who cares about females in a male dominate world where butchery like ‘genital mutilation’ can occur to control a woman’s sexual desires).
Many types of activities go on when one has sex. When we are engaged in foreplay fingers may be inserted into the vagina. Cunnilingus may occur. Some men like a tight spot so anal sex is their ‘cup of tea’.
I must always add when I write about sex that there is nothing more pleasurable and fulfilling than having sexual intercourse with one with whom the minds meet. Personality can ‘trump’ all perceived physical shortcomings. There is nothing more fulfilling than getting to know someone and really learning to love the person as a unique and complete individual and not just a piece of ass.
Sex is better when you love and know a person completely but to know and love a person completely is not a necessary condition to have good sex.
The bottom line is all adults should try and enjoy sex. It doesn’t matter if one is straight, gay, or bi. Just practice safe methods of sex and enjoy (safety is very important and if you like leisurely sexual relations all methods to prevent the spread of diseases that may cause a chronic medical condition or a deadly illness should be practiced- condom use could be a life saver- so can things like mutual foreplay and masturbation or just plain old masturbation). Life is too short to be petty and ridiculous about something that can bring such joy and happiness to a person and is part of the human condition. Of course I am a bi-ased source.